Wednesday:) Words of Wisdom

16 Feb

“If you look in the mirror and are unhappy, you’re looking at the only person who can change that.”

~ Toni Armenta Andrukaitis


“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”



It was a great weekend, and a good week so far. I drove home from Stillwater, OK today, taking over four and a half hours of zipping along I35 at over 80 miles an hour in some sections with cars flashing past me in a blink. 

I stopped at the first Texas rest stop to stretch my weary legs. Almost home, the sun shining, it felt great to be just an hour from McKinney.

Tired and thirsty and my right leg falling asleep on the accelerator, it was nice to get home. I unpacked my car, collapsed, and took a short refreshing nap. Then, I  went for a long walk  with my little neighbor doggie friend, Bella, before my support group at church. Back home, back to my routine. Ah!

We always discuss how our week went at our Wednesday divorce support group. With Valentine’s Day yesterday, a few people were feeling sad. We had a discussion on being lonely, and being happy. For some reason, there’s an extreme marketing pressure for people to do something special or be with someone special on Valentine’s Day. Why is that? 

I recounted a discussion I had with my now EX about being happy while we were going through our ugly divorce. He said, “I’m not happy.  I haven’t been happy for ten years. Are you happy?” I told him that I was happy.  I told him, “I can’t make you happy. You’re the only one who can make YOU happy.” Forty-three years together, he never once said that he wasn’t happy. Funny, how when you get caught lying and cheating, that suddenly you haven’t been happy. 

Here’s the thing, I look in the  mirror EVERY morning, and I like who I see, and I like who I am. No one gave me that, and no one can take that away. I like myself. I’m happy.

I hope you look in the mirror every morning and see a beautiful, loving, and happy person. I do.

One Response to “Wednesday:) Words of Wisdom”

  1. dancingpalmtrees February 16, 2017 at 7:22 am #

    Amen Sister Toni! ♡
    One can never find happiness outside of yourself. Well you could find temporary happiness but for long term you must learn to enjoy your own company.

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