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Wednesday:) Words of Wisdom and a Funeral

2 Mar

Please do not mourn me when I die

Instead, bring along a chocolate pie

No flowers that will just wilt and fade

Remember those brownies that I made

Bring cupcakes, candy, cake and more

A chocolate fountain by the door

Sit, and laugh, with the congregation 

My death should be a celebration

Of life and love and all the rest

Because it was the very best.

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis


“The more death, the more birth. People are entering, others are exiting. The cry of a baby, the mourning of others. When others cry, the other are laughing and making merry. The world is mingled with sadness, joy, happiness, anger, wealth, poverty, etc.” ― Michael Bassey Johnson


I went to a funeral today, sitting in the back, with silent tears tricking down my cheek. I always cry at funerals. Here’s the thing. I had a dentist appointment this morning, and decided to stop at St. Michael’s on the way home to light a candle and say a prayer. Well, turns out there was a funeral. Instead of turning around and going home, I slipped into the back and participated in the Mass.

The funeral was for a man named Juan. The church was packed, and the entire Mass was in Spanish. I understood about 75% of what was said, but I’m not familiar with all the prayers in Spanish. I went up for communion with all the rest of the family and friends. A beautiful song was sung up above in the choir loft, and that’s when I cried. I cried for a family who lost a father, a son, a husband, and a friend. His teenage daughter gave a moving eulogy, which I totally understood, both in language and in feeling.

After Mass and everyone had exited, I went up to light my candle for my special intention, and I said a prayer for a man named Juan that I’d never met.

Tuesday Tributes and Farewells: What Would You Like?

20 May

“Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.” 

― Shannon L. Alder


Today, I had the honor of attending the funeral of my dear friends’ father. It was literally standing room only, and the family and pastor had touching stories and humorous tales to share. It was a special tribute to a great man. This is not the time or place to talk about this fond farewell, but this day really got me thinking about how fleeting time is and how we never know when we will leave this earthly life.
When I thought about what my funeral would be like, I didn’t get sad. I actually was quite pleased. I’ve been so blessed with so many people who love me, and I them. I thought of all the things that I thought would make a perfect tribute to my life. I told my friend Lynne about it and she said, “Why don’t you write it down and tell your family now?” I think I will. Here ya go.
Here’s my funeral…I’d absolutely love for ALL my friends and family (actual  family) to attend if they are able to, but, if they are far away and it’s a lot of trouble, by all means, just raise a glass and toast to me with a shot of Tequilla or a Black Russian (with chocolate ice cream of course.) I’ll be with you in spirit.
Then, ABSOLUTELY NO fancy flowers and huge sprays of roses. This is not necessary and this is not me. I’ve always lived a simple and frugal life. I wouldn’t ask for donations to a certain charity in lieu of flowers, but rather ask you to go have dinner with your family and friends, and spend time with each other. Maybe share a few stories about me. Good ones only, please. What am I thinking? That’s the only kind there could be.
Because I do love flowers, mostly painting them, if you’d like to bring a single rose to place in one of my handpainted vases, it would be wonderful to see the vases filled with single roses from people I loved. (And I will be watching, so I will see.) A single rose is supposed to signify simplicity and gratitude. I like that.

Red (Single) “I Love You”

Light Pink Admiration, Sympathy, Gentleness, Grace, Gladness, Joy, Sweetness

Yellow Joy, Gladness, Friendship, Delight, Promise of a new beginning, Welcome Back, Remember Me, Jealousy, “I care”

Single – any color Simplicity, Gratitude


Then, there must be chocolate, lots of chocolate. Please bring brownies, chocolate chip cookies, chocolate cake, chocolate anything to share. If there is a gathering afterwards, no fancy dinner, how about a chocolate fountain? Don’t forget to invite my firemen buddies at stations 5 and 2. Now, that’s a celebration of my life.


“Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.” ― Shannon L. Alder


Two Penny Tuesday

9 Jul

“Here’s the thing about luck…you don’t know if it’s good or bad until you have some perspective.”
― Alice Hoffman, Local Girls
Perspective, hmmm? It depends on how you choose to look at things. The old, “Is the glass half empty or half full” concept. You have half of a glass of water, be happy you have a glass and some water and move on already! Just kidding. But, you know what I mean.

This morning, I went to the funeral Mass for a friend and neighbor, Beth Hrenak. She was the most delightful, passionate, loving, and giving person you’d ever want to meet. Her time here on earth was too short, but she did so much with her life and left so many special memories with her family and friends. That’s what life is about, I guess. It’s not if your life if half full or half empty, just live it the best you can.

Funerals always get me to thinkin’, not to mention, get me to cryin’. Life can be pretty tough sometimes, but I’ve always felt lucky. There have been some hard times, and some really hard times, but NEVER ONCE did I ever think that I wasn’t lucky. Maybe that’s what keeps me going when I start thinking about that glass being “half empty.” I’m lucky that I’ve got got a glass of water.

I’ve talked about finding my lucky pennies on more than one occasion. I found a lucky penny this afternoon while visiting with my friends at Sweet Spot Bakery, then another when I went out for my evening walk. These pennies tell me that “everything is going to be OK.” I like to think that someone up in heaven is sending me a sign. I’m pretty sure these two pennies were from Miss Beth. It was a two penny Tuesday. Thanks, Miss Beth!