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Tuesday:) Toni’s Toxic Mental Meltdown

22 Mar

“ Spreading manure around in your fields helps your crops to grow. Spreading manure around in your world… just stinks.”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis


I had a bit of a mental meltdown recently. I don’t claim to be an empath or psychic in any way, but like many sensitive people, it bothers me SO MUCH when people are nasty or inconsiderate. I generally hang out with positive upbeat people, but lately, the toxic comments, nasty cartoons, slander, and downright disrespectful attitude pushed me over the edge.

Remember, I have quoted my angel mother many times. “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all.” Didn’t your mamma raise you that way? How are we raising our children in this atmosphere of hate, bipartisan anger, and total disrespect? Yes, we have freedom of speech, but does that give us the right to be cruel? You are also free to be kind.

I seriously believe the Devil or some nasty evil force is trying to divide our country and even our families, tearing us apart, slowly but surely. It seems like now, if someone doesn’t like your politics, your religion, or color of your skin, they think they have the right to harass you, ridicule and make fun of you, or even worse, to harm you. STOP IT! The best example I have is the constant bashing Biden or trashing Trump. Has Covid made everyone crazy? Even something as serious and deadly as Covid has torn our country apart. Vote for who you want, get vaccinated if you want, wear a mask or not, but don’t tell me I’m wrong.

I may not believe the same things as all my friends and family, but I still love them. You know why? Because, as strongly as I believe in my convictions, they believe in theirs. But, give the trash talk and nastiness a rest. It hurts my heart. Literally, it hurts my heart to see and hear all the hate.

I guess what threw me over the cliff was just one too many texts and instant messages with nasty hurtful crap. I just shut down. I decided to fast from food and crazy crap. I managed to fast for 36 hours, drinking just green tea. I watched fun tv and listened to positive podcast. I still go on Facebook because I love seeing the positive pictures and jokes and babies growing up and distant cousins and wonderful old friends. I just scrolled past or deleted the crap. Many of my friends don’t even know who I voted for or my stance on Covid, and some send me crap or post crap on Facebook, thinking I’m in their camp. Guess what? I don’t go to Crazy Camp! I just delete all that stuff.

So, after getting that all off my heavy heart, if you are still reading this, know one thing. I LOVE YOU! But just remember, I don’t do CRAZY!

Today, I had some lunch around 2. I hadn’t eaten since Sunday evening. And, to replenish my creative soul and feed my shopping fix, I went to The Dollar Tree to pick up some crafts and Easter stuff for our Towne Creek Visit this Friday. I love the Dollar Tree. They really need to change their sign to the Dollar and a Quarter Tree, but that’s their business, not mine. I still love them.

I found way too many things.

Well, even though I’m feeling a little better, I’m still going to slow down and distance my self from any and all negativity.


Sunday Sermon and JUST BE KIND

26 Sep

“There are many benefits to being Catholic. When you go to Confession, your sins are forgiven. (With contrition, of course.) When you go to Mass, all that standing, kneeling, sitting, and making the sign of the cross twenty times is very good aerobic exercise, and they feed you bread and wine. When you pray for others, your soul is lifted. And, when you say grace before a meal, all the calories are taken away. (The last one is just wishful thinking.)

~ Toni Armenta Andrukaitis


Well, I didn’t get up at 7 am to get ready for Mass today. That’s another benefit of being Catholic. If you go to Saturday evening service, you don’t have to go on Sunday, too. Last night was our big 25th Anniversary Celebration after 5 o’clock Mass. So, this morning, I slept in and lounged around in my pajamas till well after noon. 🤦‍♀️

Therefore, today’s Gospel is the same as yesterday’s. This is the story of the disciple John telling Jesus about someone using His name to cast out demons. John was upset. I love this awesome quote, “For he that is not against us is for us.”…

38John said to him, “Teacher, we saw a man casting out demons in your name, and we forbade him, because he was not following us.” 39But Jesus said, “Do not forbid him; for no one who does a mighty work in my name will be able soon after to speak evil of me. 40For he that is not against us is for us. 41For truly, I say to you, whoever gives you a cup of water to drink because you bear the name of Christ, will by no means lose his reward. 42″Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung round his neck and he were thrown into the sea. 43And if your hand causes you to sin, cut it off; it is better for you to enter life maimed than with two hands to go to hell, to the unquenchable fire. 45And if your foot causes you to sin, cut it off; it is better for you to enter life lame than with two feet to be thrown into hell. 47And if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out; it is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into hell, 48where their worm does not die, and the fire is not quenched.

My take on it… Wow! The quote about “For he that is not against us is for us,” is so perfect. We should all just get along. You do your thing, I do my thing, and stop ✋ telling other people how to live and that they are wrong when they are not harming any one. If you are doing good things and helping others, it doesn’t matter whose name, what incentive, or what cause you proclaim, it’s GOOD, and it’s KIND. JUST BE KIND!

There are several movements, books, and programs out there promoting KINDNESS. We can all do our part, one kind word at a time, and one kind deed at a time.

I have been tempted SO MANY times to comment when people say and do unkind things. There is so much negativity, trash talking, and ugly jokes out there about politics, the Covid controversies, our government, and our community. The resulting effects are contempt and chaos, brother against brother, and friend against friend.

I’ve been pretty quiet until NOW. Now, my comments will expressed, my voice will be heard, and you don’t have to agree with it. I only have ONE THING TO SAY!

“JUST BE KIND!” My angel mother always used to say, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say it.” So, Who’s with me???? Instead of attacking someone verbally or in writing, “JUST BE KIND!” When someone posts something mean or nasty on social media, you can comment by writing, “JUST BE KIND!” You can add a smiley face 😊 or a heart ♥️ or a hug 🤗. Let’s continue spreading the JUST BE KIND movement.

Happy Sunday, my friends.