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Wednesday:) Words of Wisdom ~ Letter to Myself

4 Apr

“If you are brave enough to say goodbye life will reward you with a new hello.

Paulo Coehlo


I’ve been involved in a divorced and separated support group at my church for several years. People have come and gone, according to their needs and situations, but all who have participated were there for the same thing. All we’re looking to heal and share, either looking for support or giving support. When the group started over three years ago, I was already in a better place than I was in 2013. Back in those days, I was a messy molten mess of pain and uncertainty. I was hoping to help those just starting out in their painful journey.

A couple of weeks ago, our fearless leader, Christy, asked the group to write a letter of goodbye, as a healing exercise. We were supposed to say goodbye to our past and all the things we thought life would be like before divorce. I’m not one to follow directions, and I was feeling beyond that phase in my life. I also felt that saying goodbye was a bit negative, so I decided to say hello instead. Here is my letter.

Dear Me,

Hello my dear friend. Instead of writing a goodbye letter today, I’m writing a hello letter. I have spent the past six years saying good-bye to so many things. I’ve said goodbye to…the man I loved for forty-three years, my home, my financial security, my integral family unit, and my blind faith in a forever and ever fairy tale love. But most of all, I said goodbye to my old naive rose colored glasses mentality. I can see clearly now.

Now, I say hello to my strength, independence, freedom, self-assurance, hope, and endless dreams and possibilities. Now, I also say a huge hello to my un-yielding faith that has gotten me through the painful goodbyes, to be here in this peaceful place called hello.

“Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.”

― Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Love always,


Tuesday:) Time To Say Goodbye and Time To Say Hello

30 Dec

“You never really say goodbye to your children when they leave, because you slip your heart in their pocket when you give them that last long hug.”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis


You’d be very proud of me. I didn’t cry when I said goodbye to Matt at the airport today. I got to spend an extra day with him when his flight yesterday was canceled, but he spent hours trying to get a flight out today. Crazy weather, cancellations, and delays. We had a very nice visit. Matt spoiled me and humored me throughout his visit with many lunches, movies, dinners, and with me dragging him around to meet my friends, not to mention taking care of some of my financial questions. He is very patient, but I think I heard his eyes roll behind his head a few times. 

The “Last Supper.” More Mexican food and margaritas.

The little tree he bought me that I will plant and watch grow and remember his kindness. 

So, he had a long trip to get back home today from DFW with a long layover somewhere in Arkansas before arriving in Chicago this evening. I still don’t know if he made it home yet. 

It was tough to say farewell to my youngest son, but I’m hoping that the New Year will bring many blessings and more “Hellos.” I didn’t really say goodbye. I slipped my heart in his pocket when I gave him that last long hug.