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Wednesday:) Words of Wisdom on My Walk

23 Sep

“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” — Helen Keller

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While I was on my walk, I noticed someone had written some words of wisdom and inspiration with colorful chalk on the sidewalks along the path by the pond. I found it very clever and consoling. Someone or a few someones made an effort to share some clever words for whoever walked that way…

My Poem… Sidewalk Words of Wisdom

I found some words of wisdom, along my walk today.

There scrawled upon the sidewalk, in chalks, pink, blue, and grey.

The thoughts expressed were hopeful, inspirational, and fun.

“You are Kind, You can do this, and Be Nice to Everyone.”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis

Tuesday:) Toni’s Two Word Tip of the Day~ BE KIND

14 Sep

“Your life is your canvas, and you are the masterpiece. There are a million ways to be kind, amazing, fabulous, creative, bold, and interesting.”

Kerli

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I love this quote above. It’s like it was written just for me, especially the AMAZING part. I always say that jokingly, but it’s pretty true. I am all those things, and I believe there are SO MANY ways that we can be kind, amazing, fabulous, creative, bold, and interesting.

Today, I was thinking about all the mean, hurtful, petty, nasty, degrading, words and comments that people make and share. Some people have quit social media just for that reason, but I love to share my happy stories, fun and interesting people I meet, or awesome things that my friends and family are doing.

That being said, I decided that today I would make that call to Walgreens headquarters to tell them about Mr. Nathan who works at my Walgreens. A few weeks back, when I picked up 100 photos, and I did something wrong and the heads were cut off or pictures were cropped, He was kind enough to reprint them all for me, after showing me what I did wrong. Plus, he didn’t charge me. That’s above and beyond…

A few days ago, I was wandering around Walgreens looking at vitamins, and Mr. Nathan, I’m sure not even remembering me, politely stopped what he was doing and asked, “Anything I can help you with, Mam?” I said yes. I’d like to speak to your manager and tell him what an awesome employee you are. Wow! He was delighted, a big smile ran across his face.

Mr. Nathan called his manager, who hesitantly walked up to me, fearing the worst. When I explained the reason I wanted to speak to him, that same smile appeared on his unsuspecting face. He confided that he expected to get yelled at about something. Then, he said that was so kind, and if I really wanted to express my gratitude, that I could call the Walgreens headquarters.

I called the Walgreens Customer Care 800 number today. I was on hold for over 10 minutes, but I was determined. Miss Shirley, who answered, was also delighted about the call and took all my information, store number, etc. Now, Mr. Nathan has been formally recognized for going above and beyond by his employers.

In a world that is often unkind, BE KIND. Recognize and appreciate kindness in others. Give a smile to a sad face. Ask to talk to a manager and compliment an employee or waiter. Hesitate, then reconsider those unkind comments before they are said. What you say and what you do represents who you are. How do you want to be remembered? I want to be remembered as being….AMAZING! (But, you already knew that. 🤦‍♀️

I’ve got the weird part covered too!
Amen!

Wednesday:) Words of Wisdom From A Few Of My Fabulous Facebook Friends

1 Jul

“Sometimes I feel older than dirt. Then, I realize that you need good old dirt and rich soil to grow, bloom, and flourish. I’m not old, I’m just flourishing.”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis

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I always find some inspirational or funny words of wisdom from my fabulous Facebook friends. Did you like my quote?

Someone on Facebook had asked the question, “How old do you feel right now?” I immediately thought that sometimes I feel older than dirt. but then I thought, dirt is a good thing. You can’t grow without dirt. (Always see the bright side.)

Words of Wisdom….

Sunday Sermon and Some Other Stuff

14 Jun

“So never lose an opportunity of urging a practical beginning, however small, for it is wonderful how often in such matters the mustard-seed germinates and roots itself.”

~Florence Nightingale

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Well, the torrential rains have diminished for a while, but it’s toasty steamy hot outside. So, on this blessed Sunday, I thank God for air conditioning, iced tea and ice cream.

Today’s Gospel was the parable of the mustard seed, and the glorious mystery of how a seed is planted in the dirt and grows. Did you ever think about that? You plant a tiny seed in the ground, give it a little water, and it magically grows into something spectacular.

MARK 4:26-34

26And he said, “The kingdom of God is as if a man should scatter seed upon the ground,27and should sleep and rise night and day, and the seed should sprout and grow, he knows not how. 28The earth produces of itself, first the blade, then the ear, then the full grain in the ear. 29But when the grain is ripe, at once he puts in the sickle, because the harvest has come.” 30And he said, “With what can we compare the kingdom of God, or what parable shall we use for it? 31It is like a grain of mustard seed, which, when sown upon the ground, is the smallest of all the seeds on earth; 32yet when it is sown it grows up and becomes the greatest of all shrubs, and puts forth large branches, so that the birds of the air can make nests in its shade.” 33With many such parables he spoke the word to them, as they were able to hear it; 34he did not speak to them without a parable, but privately to his own disciples he explained everything.

My take on it…like the mustard seed, never underestimate the power of something that appears tiny and insignificant. The seed is planted in the dark barren soil and magically becomes an amazing plant. People are like that too. In their darkest hour, buried and struggling in the earth, they can blossom and flourish.

(I can relate to that.)

Happy Sunday, my friends.

Wednesday:)What’s Cookin’ Miss Toni?

22 Apr

“If you don’t like dancing to other people’s tunes, write your own songs.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo

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You may or may not remember that my quote from yesterday was, “If at first you don’t succeed, take a nap.” I like to follow my own sage advice, so today I took a little nap. Oops, I also posted, “If at first you don’t succeed, drink wine.” I’ll have to do that later.

I couldn’t decide what to fix for lunch today, so I opened up my over stuffed freezer, closed my eyes, and picked out a surprise. Ah, rotini pasta, and a little baggie of spinach

I nuked the pasta and spinach then popped it in the mini broiler. Yummy. I also had some lettuce and tomatoes that needed eating. Well, let’s use that up.

Words of Wisdom on my potholder, compliments of the McKinney Fire Department. “Never Walk Away From A Stove While Cooking.” I need to remember that. 🤦‍♀️

While in the freezer, I also saw a couple of whipped topping containers. Ooh! I haven’t made my peanut butter cheesecake pie in a long time.

I don’t always lick the beaters when I’m baking, but when I do, it’s only for peanut butter cheesecake pie filling. (I even turned off the beater before licking. Safety first!)
This big bowl will set up in the fridge over night until tomorrow when I decide what all to make with it. I like to make a lot of minis and share. Stay tuned.

Hope you’re having a wonderful whacky Wednesday.

Tuesday:) Toni’s Tips for Today

21 Apr

“If at first you don’t succeed, try taking a nap.”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis

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Well, I didn’t have time to take a nap today, but I wasn’t trying to succeed at anything special either. I fully intended on doing a time-lapse video, but I was running around all day, lunch with friends, went to the grocery store, listened to several podcasts, walked the dog, and had my church zoom meeting, then my sister called, and now it’s after 10 pm. Those videos always take me a couple of hours to put together. The funny part is, they usually run between 25-30 seconds in time-lapse. 🤦‍♀️

Instead, today I wanted to share one of my baking tips. If you have known me for a while, you already know this, but I was surprised when I told a couple of friends last week, they weren’t familiar with the bread trick.

My last brownie.

When I make brownies or cookies or cupcakes, I ALWAYS put a slice of fresh bread, (usually soft white) inside the covered container after baking. I just tear a slice in 1/4 and either place on top of non-frosted items or to the side of the Frosted baked goods.These brownies were made last week and this one is still as moist as the first day. Things stay moist for days. (I gave all the rest away except this one.) It works with keeping frosting from getting hard too. Hard cookies become soft. No more throwing away hard crunchy baked goods the next day or two. I bet you if I gave you a brownie I made today and one I made five days ago, you couldn’t tell the difference. (I am AMAZING!)

Another tip is, when you buy a trunk load of mulch for your yard, just pile up the bags by the front step and wait for someone to ask, “Do you need some help with that?” Well, so far it hasn’t worked, but I’m very patient and I’m a professional procrastinator.

Saving the best tip for last…

Yep! Toni’s BEST amazing tip for today!

Thankful Thursday:) Words of Wisdom for a Thirsty Soul

12 Mar

“Let my soul smile through my heart and my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter rich smiles in sad hearts.”

Paramahansa Yogananda

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Some words for thought and the soul from my Facebook friends…

And my all time favorite….

You’re welcome!!!!

Happy Thursday, my friends.

Sentimental Saturday:) Some Special Words of Wisdom from my Lovely Little Facebook Friends

7 Feb

“If it wasn’t for ALLITERATION I wouldn’t have any literarion at all.” (Sorry, that just popped into my head.)

~ Toni Armenta Andrukaitis

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I’m always inspired by the positive quotes and inspirational words of wisdom posted and shared by my lovely little Facebook friends. And I’ll be perfectly honest… I also get ticked off at all the disgusting negative crap that people put out there. I just try not to let it upset me. I just keep scrolling and rolling my eyes.

Words of Wisdom…

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Friday:) Fun Photos, Facts, and Fresh Words of Wisdom From My Facebook Friends

7 Nov

” I haven’t watched the news, election coverage, or any regular television in days. My blood pressure is great, my disposition is cheery, and all is well with my soul. Ain’t I smart?”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis

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Most people I know have been consumed with anxiety, frustration and bitterness ever since all this election hoopla and hollerin’ started many months ago. Even though I don’t watch TV, so many people have used social media to be downright nasty. What’s with that?

On the other hand, I have a few awesome friends that I have NO idea who they voted for or even what their political affiliation is. Shouldn’t we all be like that? Now, those are perfect friends to have. My soul doesn’t have room for hatred and bitterness.

Today, I’m posting a few funny photos or words of wisdom from my Facebook friends. There is always something to be thankful for, and always something good and kind and funny to say.

Happy Black Russian Friday, my friends.

Wednesday:) Wellness, Words of Wisdom and Be Wary of the Narcissist

22 Oct

“Narcissists have poor self-esteem, but they are typically very successful. They feel entitled; they’re self-important; they crave admiration and lack empathy. They are also exploitative and envious. The malignant types never forget a slight. They may kill you ten years later for cutting them off in traffic. But they act perfectly normal while plotting their revenge.”

— Janet M. Tavakoli

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I’ve done a lot of reading and research on NARCISSISM these past few years, for obvious reasons. Today, this story was in my inbox from a site I follow at healthyresearch.com. It confirmed a lot of information that I already knew and have already lived. But, I didn’t realize that they suggest that narcissists cannot learn from their mistakes. Basically saying, they will rarely, if ever, change their ways. It does make sense now because they don’t feel they make mistakes. Everyone else makes the mistakes. Duh!

I’m sure everyone has come across, has lived with, or has dealt with one or more narcissists in their lifetime. (Don’t even get me started on politicians.) I read the entire article and the best advice came at the very end…

“You cannot expect narcissists to learn from or admit to their mistakes. Ultimately, you may benefit most by caring for yourself as you interact with the narcissists in your life. For additional guidance, talk with a mental health specialist.”

In other words…”Run, Forrest, Run!”

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Why Narcissists Cannot Learn From Their Mistakes

(WellnessPursuits.com) – Most of us learn when we’re kids about the importance of admitting our mistakes. As we grow, we also acquire the ability to look back on and learn from those errors.

However, a new study has shown that narcissists feel so superior to other people that they do not own up to their mistakes. Moreover, the researchers discovered why narcissists cannot learn from their errors.

Why Narcissists Never Learn

When we make mistakes, most of us reflect on what we did wrong so we can avoid similar errors in the future. But researchers found that narcissists don’t believe they made mistakes. Rather than look back at the past in order to recognize what they could have done differently, narcissists blame others.

The act of reflecting on previous actions to analyze what we could have done differently is known as “counterfactual thinking.” When we engage in counterfactual thinking, we mentally envision a different scenario to learn from past mistakes.

Narcissists, however, put the blame for any errors on external forces, according to the study’s researchers. They protect their own egos because they truly believe they are superior to other people. As a result, narcissists are unable to learn from their mistakes.

The researchers noted that we all occasionally protect our egos by taking credit for success while putting the blame on others for failures. But few of us consistently protect self-esteem in the way that narcissists do.

Inside the Narcissist Study: ‘I Think I Am A Special Person’

Researchers at Oregon State University – Cascades formed four groups of participants. To rank the participants’ narcissism, they had them choose between two statements:

• “I think I am a special person” versus

• “I am no better or worse than most people”

Participants were then asked which hypothetical job candidate to hire. After reading how the employee performed, they had to answer questions about whether they made the right hiring decision.

The researchers used their responses to determine if the participants used counterfactual thinking and if hindsight bias affected their counterfactual thinking.

Hindsight bias is when we falsely believe we know the outcome of something before it happened. Someone experiencing hindsight bias will say, “I knew it all along” — even though they didn’t actually know. For example, if you were to make a bet with a friend and they lose, they might try to convince you they knew all along that they were going to lose.

The study’s researchers found that narcissists:

• Were more likely to exhibit the “I knew it all along” mindset when their predictions were inaccurate, a tactic they use to protect their egos.

• Do not believe they need to change.

• Do not take part in self-criticism.

All of these characteristics explain why narcissists are unable to learn from their mistakes and make better choices in the future the way the rest of us are.

How Can We Deal With Narcissists In Our Lives?

Does that research study remind you of any acquaintances in your own life? Those of us who know people with narcissistic tendencies may face challenges in maintaining relationships with them.

It’s helpful to understand that narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is considered a mental health condition. However, experts say that some individuals may have narcissistic qualities without NPD.

For example, we may know people who seem to require constant admiration. Other individuals with narcissistic tendencies may appear extremely egotistical, or seem to lack the ability to respect others as equals.

Experts say that we can deal with individuals with NPD or narcissistic characteristics by following these precautions:

• Observation: Individuals with narcissistic tendencies may concoct grandiose promises and concepts. By observing these types of people when they are not performing in front of others, we can be watchful of toxic behavior, such as disrespect or manipulation, and know to keep our distance.

• Self-Care: Narcissists don’t just seek the spotlight. They feel they deserve it. Take care of yourself by recognizing your own needs and strengths. Make time for yourself.

• Support: If you are working with or for a colleague with narcissistic tendencies, focus on building healthy relationships and a support system outside of work. If this individual is a family member or friend, consider expanding your support system through activities such as volunteer work or a class.

If you have a colleague with narcissistic tendencies or a loved one diagnosed with NPD, you may wonder how you can help that person. However, as essayist Mason Cooley cautioned, “Withhold admiration from a narcissist and be disliked. Give it and be treated with indifference.”

Before you try to change a narcissist, remember the NPD study results: You cannot expect narcissists to learn from or admit to their mistakes. Ultimately, you may benefit most by caring for yourself as you interact with the narcissists in your life. For additional guidance, talk with a mental health specialist.

~Here’s to Your Healthy Pursuits!

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