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Wednesday:) Words Of Wisdom…If It Ain’t Broke

31 Aug

“IF it ain’t broke, don’t try to get it fixed, because someone else is gonna break it.”

~Toni Armenta Andrukaitis


I’m sure you’ve all had that experience of taking your car into the dealer for an oil change. Just an oil change, that’s it, right? Last Friday, I took my car into the Honda dealer for an oil change and my state inspection. My representative proceeded to read me a litany of maintenance issues that needed addressing. All the items probably would have totaled over $1,500. I think they have a special spiel for women, especially those of the elderly persuasion. Just sayin’. I asked the rep if they could do something with the little strip of plastic molding around he windshield. The tip of it had been bent since I bought it four years ago. He took a look and said it looked like maybe it got bent in a car wash, but if it’s been okay for years, it should be okay, unless I wanted to order a new part and replace it.

I refused all the extras and the new part, and said they could call me when they were finished with the oil change, as I was going to walk over to Whataburger across the way. I ended up at the thrift store instead. While I was there, I received a call that said I really needed two front tires. This, after they had previously suggested rotating my tires. Last time I got one tire at the dealer when it had a nail in it, it cost over $200. I said no thanks. They completed the oil change and inspection in about two hours.

I picked up my car, and drove home, stopping for gas at Walmart. While filling up, I got a paper towel to dry off the windshield because they always wash your car after service. Guess what? That piece of molding that was fine for four years was completely removed, exposing the entire edge of the windshield. I called the rep. I asked if it came off in the car wash, and he said, “Maybe.” Long and short, I said I drove in with it and drove out without it. He told me to come back and talk to a manager.

I went back Saturday to show them. They ordered the part.

Sunday morning, on my way to church, my dashboard had that sign that says there is a tire problem. I thought, “I thought they checked the air in the tires? When I looked when I got to church, I had a nail in my rear tire. I went to Walmart to see if it could be repaired. Nope! I ended up getting four new tires. Glad I didn’t get new tires at the dealer Friday. I would have had to replace one on Sunday.

 I went back Monday to get the molding replaced at the dealer. It took almost three hours. There was no charge. Great! I drove home with the yellow tape still securing the piece and letting the glue dry. There were a few streaks of glue on my windshield when I parked in the garage, but I figured I’d let it dry and check the next day.
When I got in my car to go to church Tuesday, there was about a fifteen inch crack in my windshield.

See the fine line crack? Well, I called up again today, and they said to bring it in. They looked at it and said they would call the windshield place and I made an appointment to get the windshield replaced tomorrow. 

Just crazy! I can’t help but think if I would have just not asked about the windshield molding, none of this would have happened.

Moral of the story, if it ain’t broke… don’t fix it! They keep breaking stuff! 

Wednesday Words of Wisdom:) Walking With the Angels

17 Aug

“If you seek creative ideas go walking. Angels whisper to a man when he goes fora walk.” 

― Raymond I. Myers


I walk pretty much everyday, sometimes twice. This is a great time for thinking, coming up with creative ideas, chatting with neighbors, but most of all, it’s the best time to pray. I’m not talking about praying the old fashioned way. Although, a few thousand Our Fathers and Hail Marys have been said, but, this is the time that I see a spectacular sunset or commune with fluttering butterfly. This is when I say “Thank you” to the Creator. This is when “the Angels whisper” to me.

The best advice I can give you is “GO FOR A WALK.” It’s good for your body, your mind, and your soul.

Friday:) Friendly Words of Wisdom From Facebook Friends

22 Jul

“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears.” 

― John Lennon


I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again, “Most of the information, news, and words of wisdom I’ve gleaned in the past ten years has been from my Facebook page.”

Today, I want to share some insightful words from my friends on Facebook.

Happy Friday, my friends…. It’s Black Russian Friday! Yay!

Thursday:) This Is What Happened~ Experiment by Jeff Hayden

21 Jul

“A compliment is verbal sunshine.”

~Robert Orben


I’ve been writing for many years, but I’ve also been reading and learning along the way. What better way to learn how to write, grow, and learn about life and yourself, than to read what other people have to say.

I was especially tickled when I read this post by Jeff Hayden. He gave himself an interesting challenge, and I’d like to challenge you to give it a try. I’ll admit that I already do this every day on a smaller scale. Sunday at church, greeting at the door, is my most rewarding day. 

This may be a long read, and if you don’t have time to finish the entire post, here’s a synopsis. Jeff challenged himself to compliment everyone he saw for an entire day. Everyone he made eye contact with, whether friend or total stranger. Here’s the thing, when you compliment someone, they smile and feel good, and in turn, you feel good for making someone happy. It’s contagious. 

 Sunday, greeting at the door of St. Gabriel’s, I have the perfect opportunity to say, “Beuatiful dress. I love your hat. Look at those handsome young men. You girls look so pretty today. Let me see that precious baby.” And the list goes on. I find the more I compliment people, the easier it is to be genuine and share my observations. 

Challenges are wonderful. I remember when I challenged myself to write a blog post every day for one entire year. Impossible! Well, it’s over 4 1/2 years later, and I still write every day. This is post number 1,675.

So, I challenge you to give it a try. Compliment someone, or everyone. You’ll find that one day turns into a week, turns into a way of life. You’ll never know how much one kind word might brighten someone’s day.

By the way, you are a very kind and special person. Why? Because you are reading this and you put up with my ramblings. Love you guys!


This Is What Happened When I Complimented Every Person I Met for an entire day.Jeff Haden

Ghostwriter, Speaker, Inc. Magazine Contributing Editor

No one gets enough praise. No one gets enough recognition. The reason is simple: Very few of us praise and recognize people as often as we should.

I know I don’t.
So in the spirit of challenging myself (like when I was foolish enough to 5,000 pushups in one day), I decided I would compliment everyone I ran into for an entire day–even just in passing, whether I knew them or not, whether it seemed socially appropriate or not…and whether or not I could think of something (anything) I could compliment them about.
While that might sound easier than doing 5,000 pushups, for me it wasn’t. I’m fairly shy and don’t go out of my way to speak to people I don’t know. (You might even argue that I go out of my way not to speak to people I don’t know.)
And here’s how that little experiment went.
The Rules
Challenges work best when you impose structure, helping you stay on track and reducing the temptation to lose resolve and rationalize that you should change your goal midstream.

For this challenge, the structure was simple:
If I made eye contact with someone, I had to compliment them in some way…
… and to make sure I never chickened out, I had to actively try to make eye contact. I couldn’t intentionally look away.

But I didn’t have to compliment people already having a conversation, or on the phone, or wearing headphones.

And I couldn’t hide away all day. I had to go out into the world at least four times.

So with that in mind…

The first few were really easy.
I was rolling the trash out to the street and saw my neighbor. She has a great collection of plants and flowers, so I said, “I’m always impressed by how beautiful your plants are. You have a real gift.” Her face lit up. I don’t think I made her day, but I do think I helped get her day off to a good start.
Then I went for a quick walk on the beach. Since it’s fall, many of the people I met were walking their dogs or throwing balls into the surf for them to retrieve.
“You have a beautiful dog,” I said to the first one. He smiled and I realized I had complimented his dog, not him. Although many dog owners don’t see a difference…still.
So I followed up with, “She always seems so happy. You must take really good care of her.” He beamed and I realized I was right: Complimenting a person’s dog (or child or car or whatever) is nice, but making the compliment personal makes a bigger impact.
So that’s what I did. I told one man he had done an amazing job training his dog. I complimented a lady on what a great job she did grooming her dog.
I felt pretty smug. Complimenting people was easier than I thought.
Then, off in the distance, I saw a fit, pretty, 20-something young woman headed my way. No dog. No third person-ish thing to compliment. Uh-oh.
I didn’t want to be that guy, that older guy who goes around randomly complimenting young women and comes off creepy and, well, icky.
I started to walk slower. I was thinking furiously but had nothing.
Then, from about 20 feet away, she made eye contact and smiled; not a half smile, not an automatic “good morning” smile, but a big, genuine smile.
I smiled back and said, “Thanks.”
“For what?” she said.
“Lots of times when I’m walking people don’t even make eye contact. I’ve always thought that was kind of rude. You seeming so happy and saying hi was really nice.”
She smiled even bigger and said, “How could I not be happy when I’m out here? Have a great day.”
I know: What I came up with was pretty lame. But I like to think she walked away feeling good about herself, if only for a moment or two, which was the whole point of the exercise.
And I felt pretty good about myself, too, at least until I later led with, “Your daughter is really cute,” only to be told, “Thank you, but he’s a boy.”
Oh well.
Except for a few miscues, by this point I was rolling. I had learned to quickly size people up and pick out something obvious to compliment: how they cared for their animals, how they landscaped their yards, even how they dressed.
Yep: I even managed to whip out a, “That is such a pretty sweater–I wish I had your fashion sense.” (And to my surprise, she took it well.)
Then I went to the grocery store.
And let’s just say that no one in a grocery store expects you to walk by and compliment them–not even the people who work there.
And let’s just say that, “Wow, you picked the perfect melon,” isn’t the right way to go.
And neither is, “You look like you’re on a mission. You seem extremely well organized.”
And, “I wish I was as good at choosing the right steaks as you are,” falls pretty flat.
And I wanted to give up. In some settings, it seemed, compliments are not just unexpected but also unwanted.
But I decided to try one more time, but with a twist. I decided to ask for help, because asking for help is implicitly complimentary: If I ask you for help, that means you know something I don’t know, can do something I can’t do…asking you for help is like saying, “I respect your knowledge/skill/experience.”
That’s what I did. I was in the seafood section and made eye contact with a 30-something woman. She didn’t smile or nod (gulp!) but I forged ahead.
“I’m terrible at picking the right piece of salmon,” I said. “Can I bother you for a second and ask you to help me?” And she did. She actually seemed to enjoy it.
And I got to say, “I really appreciate it. Thanks for helping me, and for being so nice.”
So while I did have a couple tough moments, especially when I was standing in the checkout line behind an extremely frazzled father with three borderline out of control kids–the last thing he seemed to want was a random compliment–I made it out of the grocery store and through the parking lot with my compliment streak intact.
But I do have to admit I was relieved to get back in the car.
Dumb move No. 2: I went to the gym.
On one hand, it was easier: Most people wear headphones when they work out, so that eliminated them from my challenge.
On the other hand, moving from bench to squat rack to machines to free weights meant at some point I ran into almost everyone who was at the gym.
Still. One guy was benching 325 pounds for reps. Easy compliment. A woman was doing a split and then laying all the way forward on the mat. Another easy compliment. A guy jumped in and helped an apparent newcomer with his form on squats; presumptuous, yes, but also kind, since the way the guy was bending his back was a recipe for injury. When I ran into the Good Samaritan a few minutes later it was easy for me to say, “That was really nice of you to help him out.”
Then I found myself doing pull-downs near a guy doing seated rows. And I had nothing.
Then I noticed the tattoo on his forearm.
And I was in. “I really like your tattoo,” I said.
He smiled, said thanks, and then spent the next five minutes talking all about it: where he got it, how he came up with the design, what it means to him…. And I realized that sometimes the easiest thing to compliment is the thing that people seem to want you to notice or are obviously proud of: a tattoo, a piercing, an unusual hair color…a Porsche, a Hayabusa, a tricked-out truck…almost everyone has something they do or say or wear that they feel represents who they are inside.
All you have to do is look for it.
What I Learned
I can’t say it was easy. Complimenting every person I ran into got easier, but never easy. It’s not hard to compliment people you meet who are doing their jobs: grocery clerks, managers, front-desk people at the gym…saying thanks and telling them they did something well is fairly easy.
All you have to do is remember to do it.
Complimenting “random” people is harder but surprisingly rewarding. It was fun to watch people’s faces light up.
You’ll think so, too. Every day, people around you do good things. Most of those people don’t work for you; in fact, most of them have no relationship with you, professional or personal. Compliment them for something they would least expect.
Expected feels good.
Unexpected makes an even bigger impact.
Complimenting people who try something different can also be hard. Do it anyway. Status quo is often status safe. Taking a risk, however small, is hard, especially if you’re insecure. Insecurity feeds off silence, so mention when you see someone trying something different. Compliment the effort. Praise the risk.
Even if what they try doesn’t work, they will know you noticed, and everyone likes to be noticed.
And they’ll know, regardless of how it turns out, that you respect them for trying.
Most of all, make the compliment personal. Compliment what the person did to achieve a certain outcome, not the outcome itself.
And never be afraid to ask for help, because the act of asking is a compliment in itself–and then gives you the chance to praise someone for his or her knowledge and skill.
Give it a try. Commit to complimenting five people today, or 10, or nearly everyone you meet.
It’s not easy, but I promise you’ll make the day brighter for at least a few people–and you’ll learn a little something about yourself, too.

Wednesday:) Words of Wisdom

5 Jul

The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails. 

~William Arthur Ward


Many people complain about Facebook. Personally, I love catching up with family and friends in distant places, or just around the corner. I don’t pay much attention to politics, complaints, or advertising. But, one of my favorite pastimes while scrolling through my posts is finding wonderful quotes, words of wisdom, and adorable pictures of puppies and babies.

Here are some of my favorite words of wisdom from my friends on Facebook.

Sometimes the words are wise and funny.


Wednesday:) Words of Wisdom~ Don’t Talk to Strangers ~ NOT

22 Jun

“We sometimes encounter people, even perfect strangers, who begin to interest us at first sight, somehow suddenly, all at once, before a word has been spoken.”

~Fyodor Dostoevsky*******************

Back home to McKinney today. My sister took me to O’Hare early this morning to catch my flight to Dallas. No traffic jams, and we arrived in record time, so I had two hours before my flight boarded. I like to get to the airport early so I can 1.Not stress about being late 2.Relax and have some breakfast 3.Talk to strangers and meet new people.

I printed out my boarding pass at the kiosk, tsa approved, so I got through security in just a few minutes, THEN, when I went to get my bag off the rollers, there on the floor, right at my feet, was a lucky penny. (Good sign.)

I walked through the crowds and over to the food court, stopping at McDonald’s. With my brown bag with Golden Arches in hand, I scouted around to see where I would sit. Here’s what I always do at the airport…I look for someone sitting alone, and I go over and say, “Do you mind if I join you?”

I saw a gentleman with an airport employee badge on who just sat down. When I asked to join him, he was more than cordial. I introduced myself, and he said his name was Ray. Ray, a baggage handler, was on his lunch break at 9:30 a.m. I asked how he was doing, and he said tired. He started work at 4 a.m. 

(Ray had his serious selfie face on here, but he mostly had a wonderful smile when we talked.)

Ray and I talked a long time about family, work, Chicago, McKinney, hopes, dreams, faith, and more. It’s amazing how you can get to know a person pretty well in less than an hour. Subtle cues, gestures and words tell a lot about a person. Ray was very polite and called me Mam when I asked to sit down. He stood up to shake hands upon introduction. Before he started eating, he folded his hands and said a prayer before he ate. He smiled and joked and was open and honest when we talked, sharing stories about his life and his family. So, within a short time, I met a man of faith, a caring father, a man who admitted to having a turbulent troubled youth, but now blessed with a good happy life. Conclusion: a good, kind, sincere, hard working, optimistic, honest man of faith.

That’s why I like to talk to strangers. Everyone has an interesting life. Everyone has an interesting story. You’ll never hear that story unless you talk to them. It was a pleasure to meet Ray. We shook hands and said goodbye, wishing the other a good day. I said, “Take care Ray. Maybe I’ll see you next time I visit Chicago.” 

It was a good day, smooth flight, and safe arrival. My friend Karen picked me up at the airport, we stopped for an early dinner, and caught up on the latest news. 

When I got home, I unpacked, which entailed pretty much just throwing all the laundry in the washer. Then, I went for a long needed walk. I talked to a few neighbors on my journey, and caught the evening sunset. The sun was out till well after 8p.m. Because it’s the first day of summer.

It’s good to be home. Happy First Day of Summer!!!

Wednesday:) Words of Wisdom and Waving Flags

15 Jun

“The American flag represents all of us and all the values we hold sacred.” –

 – Adrian Cronauer


Not everyone remembers or even knows knows that today is Flag Day. Guess what? I didn’t pay much attention to it either. But, there was a big celebration here at the Greens of Elgin where Mom lives, with a special Flag raising ceremony and tribute to the many veterans who live here. Afterwards, there was a party with snacks and drinks. Then, at 3 o’clock there was entertainment, a patriotic-themed performance by Heather Braoudakis. There was a lot of toe tapping, a sing-along, and a finale where everyone stood, whether with walkers or canes, hands resting on their hearts as they sang. A generation of true patriotic Americans. 

BY LEADA GORE lgore@al.com

Today is the day we celebrate Old Glory – the American Flag.

Flag Day is June 14, 2017. The day traces its origins back to June 14, 1885 when B.J Cigrand, a school teacher, arranged for students in the Fredonia, Wisconsin Public School District to observe the day as a time to celebrate the anniversary of the Second Continental Congress’ Flag Resolution of June 14, 1777.
The original resolution called for the flag to be “13 stripes, alternate red and white; that the union be thirteen stars, white in a blue field, representing a new constellation.”

Cigrand continued to spread the message about Flag Day, which was adopted in New York on June 14, 1889 and Philadelphia on June 14, 1891. The idea of patriotic celebrations honoring the flag spread throughout the country until it was officially established by proclamation by President Woodrow Wilson on May 30, 1916. It wasn’t until Aug. 3, 1949, however, that President Harry Truman signed an Act of Congress designating June 14 of each year as National Flag Day.

Flag Day is not a federal holiday but it is a state holiday in New York and Pennsylvania.
On June 14, 1777, the Continental Congress passed an act establishing an official flag for the new nation. The resolution stated: “Resolved, that the flag of the United States be thirteen stripes, alternate red and white; that the union be thirteen stars, white in a blue field, representing a new constellation.” On Aug. 3, 1949, President Harry S. Truman officially declared June 14 as Flag Day.